Surrender to Love

MOTHERING IS HOLDING AND LETTING GO. Just as breathing requires two opposing acts, inhaling and exhaling, we need to exercise letting go while simultaneously holding our children. The pure form of mothering in the collective memory, the Indigenous people of the world still exhibit this to varying degrees.   This type of mothering is as easy as breathing and requires no real thought. The act comes from the wider intelligence of the heart space and therefore has no encumbrance. However modern mothers have no immediate village to let our children go to.  We come ourselves with a mixed bag of repressed pains and fears. Like an archeological dig they pop up as our children reach the age the trigger was set, sometimes many generations ago. It is little wonder that the closest we come to letting our children go is to creche or school.  Letting them go is deeper than that just as love is deeper than physically taking care of our child. It is at the level of the heart space that we hold and let go. It could be that like birth, we don't get to hold our baby until we have truly surrendered. The act of birthing is ultimately, the act of surrendering. In modern mothers our analytical mind is over active and often at birth this presents a massive problem that prevents true surrender and blocks natural birthing, as statistics show. So if we accept that we are a culture of women who have largely forgotten how to surrender, we can turn our attention to finding ways to allow that to heal. Moment by moment it's the simple things like singing and gardening, walking in nature, that give us back to the space of surrender. We need to let go of so many layers of thought that quietly drive us to ever shifting fashions. Breath in the love for your child, breath out that same love. You will see that it is not your love you give to your child but God's love, the universal love that you can source though letting go is so much bigger.